In this powerful and deeply personal episode, Paul speaks with former police officer Vicki, who shares her harrowing experience of abuse, survival, and what happened when she turned to the very system she once served.

After meeting a man on a dating app, what began as a relationship quickly spiralled into control, violence, and sexual abuse. Despite gathering the courage to report what had happened, Vicki’s case was never even passed to the CPS. Instead, she found herself facing disbelief, inaction, and a system that left her feeling abandoned.

This episode explores:

• The reality of coercive control and abusive relationships
• The psychological toll of trauma and isolation
• Failures in the police response to domestic and sexual abuse
• What happens when a police officer becomes the victim
• The fight for accountability and change

Vicki speaks openly about the impact on her mental health, her family, and her career—ultimately leading to her leaving the police after 17 years of service.

This is not just one woman’s story. It raises serious questions about trust, accountability, and whether the system is equipped to deal with cases like this—especially when it involves one of their own.

⚠️ Trigger Warning: This episode contains discussion of rape, sexual assault, domestic abuse, and trauma.

If you or someone you know is affected by issues raised in this episode, please seek support from a trusted person or a specialist organisation.

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