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Us

Getting Past You & Me to Build a More Loving Relationship

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Us

By: Terrence Real
Narrated by: Terrence Real, Bruce Springsteen
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 Stop working on yourself as an individual and start working on your relationship as a couple, with the help of the renowned family therapist and bestselling author of The New Rules of Marriage
 
“This book is a road map for all of us who seek true intimacy.”—GWYNETH PALTROW, founder and CEO of goop

Not much is harder than figuring out how to love your partner in all their messy humanness—and there’s also not much that’s more important. 

At a time when toxic individualism is rending our society at every level, bestselling author and renowned marriage counselor Terrence Real sees how it poisons intimate relationships in his therapy practice, where he works with couples on the brink of disaster. The good news: Warmer, closer, more passionate relationships are possible if you have the right tools. 

In his transformative new book Us, Real brilliantly observes how our winner-takes-all culture infiltrates families with devastating results: repetitive fights that go nowhere, or a distant relationship in which partners end up living “alone together.” With deft insight, humor, and charm, Real guides you to transform your relationship into one that’s based on compassion, collaboration, and closeness. 

Us is a groundbreaking guide to a new science-backed skillset—one that will allow you to get past your knee-jerk reactions and tap into your wiser, more collaborative self. With a novelist’s flair, Real shares the stories of couples whose relationships have been saved by these skills and pans out to the culture that reinforces our dysfunction. If you and your partner are backed into separate corners of “you” and “me,” this book will show the way back to “us.” With Us, your true relationship can begin. 

*Includes a downloadable PDF of charts and diagrams from the book Love, Dating & Attraction Marriage & Long-Term Partnerships Personal Development Personal Success Relationships
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This is one of those books that I know I will keep coming back to! It’s an incredible body of work that invites all of us to challenge our relational beliefs and move into something more whole and rewarding. Thank you Terry.

An incredible read!

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Compassionate, humble, kind, powerful, humorous, direct, US offers a healing map for humanity. More than a therapeutic treatise exploring a road to relationship recovery, this work invites the reader to pick ourselves up, bring ourselves down and relate from our hearts. Risk vulnerability, dare intimacy, surrender to peace, ease, the joy of connection to self, others and all that is. This is the work of a lifetime. It’s the work of recovery. It’s the work of salvation for all life (in my humble opinion!). Thank you, Terry - your words touch my heart! 💗

practical magic - essential healing

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woke post-modern rubbish. nothing here of any use. white bad. man bad. west bad. christian bad. such a shame.

woke

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Like the Curate's egg, parts of it are excellent. The first 9 chapters are challenging and insightful.

But I found the last two chapters to be completely unhelpful and distasteful. Woke collective guilt isn't helpful, and while I agree that "rugged individualism" is problematic, "group privilege" and "collective guilt" is equally toxic. I fail to see how it will help broken people like me grow and heal when I am burdened down with woke ideological nonsense.

Mixed bag

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