Join trans elders Mardi P. and Lenny Z. as they bring nearly 100 years of collective lived experience to the table in this deeply personal episode. Recording from their favourite spot – the elder folx house.

This week, they're getting real about aging parents, health challenges, and the importance of self-care and boundaries. They dive into Canadian citizenship fast-tracking options for trans Americans seeking safety, celebrate the resilience of trans activism, and call out the privilege of older trans folks who've forgotten where they came from.

The hosts honour Marsha P. Johnson through composer Omar Thomas's beautiful instrumental piece "Mother of a Revolution", which was banned from a high school but found a home in a local church — a true testament to community resilience. They read heartfelt listener messages about transition fears, breast augmentation, and the courage it takes to start your journey later in life.

Most importantly, they shine a light on the devastating reality of trans violence, paying tribute to Juniper Blessing, a 19-year-old trans musician tragically murdered, while emphasising why healthcare access and community support for trans youth is literally a matter of life and death.

– This is a life lived trans

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Shownotes:

• Trans Kids Suicide Increase: https://goodlawproject.org/new-data-shows-surge-in-trans-kids-suicides-following-healthcare-rollbacks/

• Juniper Blessing: https://www.lgbtqnation.com/2026/05/new-details-in-juniper-blessing-he-stabbed-her-over-40-times-after-prowling-the-residence/

• Eryka Caldwell: https://www.them.us/story/trans-woman-eryka-caldwell-fatally-stabbed-in-bushwick-brooklyn

• Music by Omar Thomas, UGA Wind Ensemble, A Mother of A Revolution! : https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R6ieR-YZ4eY&list=RDR6ieR-YZ4eY&start_radio=1

• Performance of Wildflowers by Juniper Blessing and the NMMEA all state mixed chorus 2024: https://www.tiktok.com/@fire4452/video/7642131046204476703

On this episode of A Life Lived Trans, Alexandra Billings drops by in all her hilarious glory and discusses together with Mardi P. and Lenny Z., the need for connection and understanding between trans generations and the significance of sharing experiences of acceptance and resilience.

Show notes:

• Russo, Why We Fight (1988): https://youtu.be/C0Q8p0HCQEs?si=s4jJCAQbHyXcXYSO

• The AIDS Monument: https://aidsmonument.org/

We have had some family and personal health issues and were't able to record last week.

Pls enjoy this free video episode. Its one of our favourites that with did last year.

We will be back next week with a new episode full of the fabulous banter you have come to expect from us!

Season three, episode 12 of A Life Lived Trans opens with hosts Mardi P. and Lenny Z. checking in personally before diving into a packed agenda. Lenny shares that he's navigating some difficult family struggles, which leads to a warm exchange about the complexity of family relationships for trans people — estrangement, boundaries, and the particular pain of having unsupportive family members, including conservative relatives. Both hosts reflect on their own histories with chosen family, stealth living, and the hard-won community they've built over decades.

The bulk of the episode takes on the Met Gala, where Mardi and Lenny call out what they see as the tokenizing of trans women — namely Hunter Schaefer and Alex Consani — at an event now bankrolled by Jeff Bezos. Mardi draws a sharp parallel to her own experience in the 1980s being the "token tranny" at wealthy Vancouver parties, and the conversation expands into a broader critique of "pick-me gays" who distance themselves from the trans community for social acceptance, at a moment when trans youth suicide rates are climbing in both the US and UK. They also touch on passport gender policy rollbacks under the current US administration, and celebrate Trans History Week with a rundown of Canadian and American trans trailblazers.

The episode wraps with a joyful segment on Chris Paul Rainbows' upcoming children's book Guinea Pigs Don't Wear Pants — a gender-affirming picture book with charming self-illustrated pages, available for pre-order with a portion of sales going to the It Gets Better foundation. Mardi also gives a brief update on the memoir she's writing, describing the process as both cathartic and re-traumatizing, with a first chapter due the following week. https://www.guineapigsdontwearpants.com/