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We talk a lot about men and p*rnography. But what about the woman sitting three rows back in the same parish, carrying the same secret, with nowhere to turn? And what about the betrayed husband who just discovered his wife is the one struggling?

In this episode, Steve sits down with Rachael Killackey, founder and executive director of Magdala Ministries and author of Love in Recovery, to have an important conversation. Women struggle with p*rn too. And the way they struggle, the way they hide, and the way they heal is not the same as men.

This episode is for the woman who needs help and hope. It's for the betrayed husband who just found out his wife is the one struggling. And it's for every priest and counselor who wants to serve the whole room, not just half of it.

In this episode we cover:

• How Rachael founded Magdala Ministries and why she chose Mary Magdalene as its patron
• Statistics on women and p*rn
• How shame hits differently for women, including what often happens when they bring this to confession
• Women's pathways into p*rn, including visual content, erotica, hookup culture, and the growing threat of AI
• How women heal
• The core wounds beneath the behavior and what men and women actually share at the root
• Betrayal trauma when the roles are reversed, what the betrayed husband experiences and what he needs

Episode Timestamps:

• 01:12 — Saint of the Day
• 04:13 — Meet Rachael Killackey
• 05:52 — Founding Magdala
• 07:30 — Why Mary Magdalene
• 09:22 — Women and P*rnography, The Reality
• 10:51 — The Statistics on Women's Use
• 12:23 — Shame and the Confessional
• 17:05 — Breaking Isolation Together
• 20:26 — Women's Hook, Imagination and Erotica
• 22:46 — Prayer as Rewiring
• 23:45 — Hookup Culture and Its Fallout
• 26:30 — Culture, Access, and Normalization
• 29:53 — How Women Heal
• 32:29 — Mary, Surrender, and the Path Forward
• 35:20 — The Core Wounds Beneath the Behavior
• 37:26 — When the Husband Is the Betrayed Spouse
• 43:35 — What Magdala Ministries Offers
• 45:22 — Love in Recovery and Words of Hope

About Rachael Killackey: Rachael Killackey is the founder and executive director of Magdala Ministries, the first Catholic ministry of its kind specifically for women healing from sexual addiction. She holds bachelor's and master's degrees in theology from Ave Maria University, is pursuing her certification in sex addiction therapy, and has personally walked with over a thousand women through stories of shame, secrecy, and healing. Her book Love in Recovery is available through Ave Maria Press.

🌐 magdalaministries.org 📖 Love in Recovery - avemariapress.com

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In 2025, the United States Conference of Catholic Bishops released Create in Me a Pure Heart- a landmark document addressing p*rnography, its devastation, and the Church's responsibility to respond.

In this follow-up conversation with Joshua Urrutia, we go beyond the document itself and into the realities it names: the loneliness driving individuals to p*rnography in the first place, the p*rnography industry's deliberate targeting of children, the betrayal trauma impact on marriages, and what it actually looks like to walk toward healing in all of it.

00:58 Episode Welcome and Guest

01:39 Saints and Recovery Themes

04:09 Bishops Document Overview

05:11 Key Takeaways Loneliness Trauma

06:37 P*rn and Loneliness Stats

11:09 Isolation and Inner Child

15:23 Grooming and Tech Access

18:37 Phone Safeguards and Tools

22:30 Neuroscience of Addiction

25:15 Dopamine And Denial

25:50 Neurobiology Visual Tools

26:58 Betrayal Trauma Explained

28:12 D-Day Discovery Shock

30:41 Patience And Living Amends

33:47 Support Groups And Disclosure

36:23 Helping Others Stay Free

38:45 Practical Recovery Strategies

41:08 Church And Family Action

45:05 Resources And Farewell

Referenced in this episode: Create in Me a Pure Heart document— United States Conference of Catholic Bishops, 2025 Available at usccb.org

About Joshua Urrutia: Joshua Urrutia is a Licensed Professional Counselor-Associate and ASAT Candidate with Intuitus Group in Texas. He holds a Master's in Counseling from Divine Mercy University, is EMDR trained, and is a verified member of the Catholic Psychotherapy Association. Joshua works with individuals and couples navigating compulsive sexual behavior, betrayal trauma, and the intersection of faith and mental health.

Website: intuitus-group.com

Phone: (512) 650-8018

Email: joshua@intuitus-group.com

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Steve O’Connor hosts special guest Casey Allison, founder of Come Awake Coaching and Consulting.

Casey is a Master Certified Coach through ICF, an APSATS-certified Partner Coach, a Certified Disclosure Guide through Kintsugi Recovery Partners, a PSAP through IITAP, and a Brainspotting practitioner. She also has training in the perinatal period with betrayed women, and additional training to support partners of sex addicts who have criminally sexually offended, whether they’ve been charged or not. She holds many other trainings and certifications as well.

Casey shares how discovering her husband’s secret sexual life led her, after years of ineffective help and multiple practitioners, to find betrayal-trauma-informed support and eventually serve women navigating betrayal, pregnancy/new motherhood, and cases involving sexual offending. They discuss how uninformed resources can harm partners by blaming them, and share indicators of good support: prioritizing safety and stabilization, validating grief and anger, and aiming for post-traumatic growth rather than “going back.”

They emphasize the importance of truth and a collaborative Full Disclosure, including the Partner Impact Statement and Emotional Restitution letter, to restore mutuality, reduce shame, and foster empathy.

Casey shares about her Catholic women’s Facebook group and her coaching groups, and offers hope that healing is possible. Tune in and share!

Time Stamps:
Show Intro
01:13 Saint of the Day Reflection - St. John Baptist de LaSalle as a model of radical surrender
03:25 Meet Casey Allison
04:56 Casey's Story and Calling
08:13 Finding Trauma Informed Help
11:51 Safety, Stabilization, Grief, Anger and Growth
14:24 Why Full Disclosure Matters
17:21 Team Based Disclosure Support
22:04 Power, Control and Mutuality
25:06 Impact and Restitution Letters
29:47 Catholic Women Facebook Community
33:41 Casey Groups and Programs
38:29 Closing Hope and Next Steps

Links for Casey:

Free initial consultation: https://www.comeawakecoach.org/p/packages_4.html

Support groups: https://www.comeawakecoach.org/p/community.html

Workshops and Events: https://www.comeawakecoach.org/p/promotions.html

Digital Resources: https://comeawakeresources.company.site/

Released to Heal Group (starting April 15th): https://www.comeawakecoach.org/p/released-to-heal-support-group.html

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