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This is the third Sourel of the week, and it brings together the two practices offered earlier, the object held in one hand from Tuesday, and the hand placed against the chest from Thursday, into one small, complete gesture for closing the week.

This episode begins by acknowledging something simple: that whatever the week has actually contained, evenings with a drink or without one, something has kept bringing the listener back to these few minutes, three times this week, to sit with their own experience rather than look away from it.

The practice itself is gentle and physical. Holding a chosen object in one hand, grounding in something real and chosen, while the other hand rests against the chest, acknowledging whatever has actually been true this week, without needing it to have been any particular thing. One slow breath, held in both positions at once.

This episode is explicit that this is not a ritual requiring perfect repetition. It is simply a way of marking an ending, deliberately, rather than letting one pass unnoticed the way it once did.

It closes by previewing Week Three, a sense of mental clarity some people begin to notice around this point, arriving in its own time, regardless of what the listener's relationship with alcohol has actually looked like so far.

If you find yourself wanting something to return to between these reflections, in the actual moment a habit like this one takes hold, I also built an app called Settle and Source. It offers a ninety-second guided practice for exactly the kind of moment this essay has been describing, the gap between noticing an urge and knowing what to do with it. It is not a replacement for anything here, simply another door, in case it is the right one for you. https://settleandsource.com

Settle and Source: The Podcast is created by Angela M. Carter, founder of Trauma Release Centre and a trained IFS therapist with over thirty years of clinical experience.

Each episode is a Sourel: a short voiced reflection set to sound. Designed for the small pauses of a full life.

Find Angela and more of her work at www.traumareleasecentre.com.

If today’s reflection landed for you, share it with someone who needs it. That’s how a quiet message travels in a loud world.

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This episode addresses something that rarely gets said honestly in conversations about a month like this one: the discomfort of feeling behind.

Perhaps an intention was set at the start of the month, and somewhere along the way, that intention met the actual complexity of an actual life. A stressful day. A celebration. An evening that simply got away. This episode speaks directly to anyone who might be feeling sheepish about that, as though something has been failed at, even though nobody asked for perfection in the first place.

This episode explains why changes in long-held habits rarely occur through a single decision sustained by willpower alone. It is closer to an ongoing negotiation between an old pattern and a newer awareness, with the old pattern winning some rounds and the newer awareness winning others. This is not a flaw in character or commitment. It is simply what behaviour change looks like in real human lives.

For some listeners, nothing about the drinking itself may have changed yet, and this episode holds that as equally valid, naming that internal shifts, the quiet noticing, the slow questioning, often precede external ones by quite some time.

Rather than instruction, this episode offers permission to be exactly where someone actually is, whatever that looks like. It also offers a small physical practice, a hand placed flat against the chest, a way of acknowledging, through touch, that something is working hard right now, even on days that do not look like progress from the outside.

If you find yourself wanting something to return to between these reflections, in the actual moment a habit like this one takes hold, I also built an app called Settle and Source. It offers a ninety-second guided practice for exactly the kind of moment this essay has been describing, the gap between noticing an urge and knowing what to do with it. It is not a replacement for anything here, simply another door, in case it is the right one for you. https://settleandsource.com

Settle and Source: The Podcast is created by Angela M. Carter, founder of Trauma Release Centre and a trained IFS therapist with over thirty years of clinical experience.

Each episode is a Sourel: a short voiced reflection set to sound. Designed for the small pauses of a full life.

Find Angela and more of her work at www.traumareleasecentre.com.

If today’s reflection landed for you, share it with someone who needs it. That’s how a quiet message travels in a loud world.

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This episode opens Week Two by asking something honestly, without any expectation about what the answer should be. What is actually true for you right now.

Maybe nothing has changed yet. Maybe everything has. Maybe the month has not gone the way it was pictured at the start, and this episode is being listened to anyway, with curiosity still intact. All of that is welcome here. None of it disqualifies anyone from anything.

This episode is built around a simple truth, that real change rarely moves in a straight line, and that what matters most is not whether this month matches some imagined version of progress, but what is actually happening, moment to moment, evening to evening.

Rather than assuming anything about where the listener has landed, this episode offers something physical to hold onto. A single object, chosen and held in one hand at the hour the evening usually shifts, whether or not that evening involves a drink. Not a replacement ritual to perform perfectly every night, but one small, physical anchor, something real and chosen, in a moment that has for a long time belonged to something else entirely.

This episode closes by naming something quietly significant, that simply continuing to listen, regardless of what the evenings have actually looked like, suggests an attention being paid that was not always there before, often the very first part of any real shift, long before behaviour catches up to it.

If you find yourself wanting something to return to between these reflections, in the actual moment a habit like this one takes hold, I also built an app called Settle and Source. It offers a ninety-second guided practice for exactly the kind of moment this essay has been describing, the gap between noticing an urge and knowing what to do with it. It is not a replacement for anything here, simply another door, in case it is the right one for you. https://settleandsource.com

Settle and Source: The Podcast is created by Angela M. Carter, founder of Trauma Release Centre and a trained IFS therapist with over thirty years of clinical experience.

Each episode is a Sourel: a short voiced reflection set to sound. Designed for the small pauses of a full life.

Find Angela and more of her work at www.traumareleasecentre.com.

If today’s reflection landed for you, share it with someone who needs it. That’s how a quiet message travels in a loud world.