What happens when two powerful paths—Buddhism and the Enneagram—sit down for a conversation?

In this episode, Ian welcomes author and Buddhist teacher Susan Piver (The Buddhist Enneagram) to explore the overlap between these two systems. Susan's new book, The Buddhist Enneagram, offers a fresh lens on personality—not as something to fix, but as something to understand, soften, and ultimately hold with compassion.

This conversation goes beyond personality labels and into something deeper: How your patterns form, why they stick, and how awareness—not willpower—is what actually creates change.

If you've ever felt stuck in your reactions, overwhelmed by your emotions, or quietly convinced you're "doing life wrong," this episode offers a different path forward.

Together, they unpack:

• How the Enneagram and Buddhism overlap (and where they challenge each other)

• The difference between mindfulness and awareness (and why both matter)

• How meditation helps you notice your reactions without being ruled by them

• Why trying to "fix yourself" often backfires—and what works instead

• How Enneagram subtypes shape conflict, connection, and relationships

As always, this isn't about becoming someone else. It's about becoming more fully who you already are—with a little more grace along the way.

Susan Piver is a Buddhist teacher, meditation instructor, and author of The Buddhist Enneagram. Her work bridges ancient wisdom and modern psychology, helping people cultivate compassion and awareness in everyday life.

If this episode resonates, follow the show so you don't miss future conversations on the Enneagram, relationships, and spiritual growth.

Know someone who's deep into the Enneagram—or stuck in their patterns? Send this their way. It might be exactly what they need to hear.

Most of us think we're avoiding hard conversations because we don't know what to say.

But that's not really the problem.

In this episode, Ian and Anthony dive into the real reason we sidestep the conversations that matter most—and it has a lot less to do with skill and a lot more to do with what's happening inside of us.

Because here's the truth: you can have the best negotiation strategy in the world, but if you don't understand the emotional dynamics underneath the conversation, you're going to be dead in the water.

As part of our Courageous Conversations series, this episode serves as the emotional intelligence companion to negotiation—helping you move from avoidance to clarity, from anxiety to grounded confidence.

Ian unpacks:

• Why we were never taught how to have hard conversations (and what we learned instead)

• The "fool's choice" that keeps us stuck between silence and relational fallout

• How the stories we tell ourselves quietly shape our emotions and reactions

• The three common narratives (victim, villain, helpless) that sabotage connection

• A simple but powerful 5-step framework to actually have the conversation

• What to do when things go sideways—and how to restore safety in real time

Along the way, you'll discover that the goal isn't just to "say it better"—it's to show up differently.

Because hard conversations don't ruin relationships. Avoiding them does.

So as you listen to this episode, ask yourself: "What's one conversation you've been avoiding—and what would it look like to walk into it just a little more prepared?"

**This episode is part of our ongoing Courageous Conversations series—where we're learning how to speak honestly, navigate tension, and build stronger, more trust-filled relationships in the places that matter most.

What if the conversations you're avoiding… are actually the doorway to the relationships you want?

In this replay from our Courageous Conversations series, I sit down with conflict resolution expert James Guinn to explore a truth most of us would rather sidestep: conflict isn't the problem—our style of engaging it is.

Together, we unpack the hidden patterns that shape how you show up when tension rises—whether you withdraw, accommodate, compete, analyze, or collaborate—and how those instincts, often wired beneath your awareness, quietly drive the outcomes of your hardest conversations.

Here's the deal: every difficult conversation is a negotiation. Not just of outcomes, but of needs, emotions, and meaning. And if you don't understand your default conflict style—or the style of the person across from you—you'll keep talking past each other, escalating what could've been resolved.

James brings a practical framework for identifying what actually triggers conflict (hint: it's not always what you think), and I connect the dots to the Enneagram—because knowing your type isn't just about self-awareness, it's about relational wisdom in real time.

We also wrestle with a deeper question:
How often is the conflict really about the issue… and how often is it about something underneath—process, expectations, or old emotional wounds we've carried into the room?

If you've ever walked away from a conversation thinking, "That did not go how I hoped," this episode will give you a new playbook.

Because courageous conversations aren't about winning.
They're about understanding, adapting, and learning how to meet people where they are—without losing yourself in the process.

And that, my friends, is a skill worth building.

Tune in next week as Anthony and I talk through a simple, practical framework for having difficult conversations.