Life is full of transitions.

Some we expect.
Some we don't.

And even when they're good… they can feel overwhelming.

In this episode, I share a personal moment I'm moving through right now:

• my youngest graduating

• my oldest starting her next chapter

• and the shift into a quieter home

Alongside that, I take you inside a powerful experience from an equine therapy workshop that brought everything into focus.

In this episode, you'll learn:
• Why transitions can trigger overwhelm—even when nothing is "wrong"

• What actually causes that frozen, stuck feeling

• How to stay grounded instead of trying to figure everything out at once

• The unexpected lesson a horse named Pebbles taught me about trust

The real shift:

Overwhelm isn't about doing too much.

It's about trying to hold everything at once.

When you slow things down… and come back to one step… everything starts to move again.

✨ A simple question to take with you:
👉 What's one thing you're trying to figure out all at once?
👉 And what's the next small step instead?

Want support with this?
If you're in a season of change and feeling stretched, this is exactly the work I'm leaning into more right now.

Start with my People Pleasing Quiz to understand your patterns around:

• overthinking

• overgiving

• and trying to keep everything together

https://bit.ly/notapeoplepleaser

You'll also get access to my emails where I share simple ways to reset and respond differently in real life.

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I'll be sharing more real-life moments like this… and opening up a new group experience soon.

This podcast is produced by www.keystepsupport.com

Think you're "bad at art"? This episode will help you release perfectionism, reconnect with creativity, and use simple art practices to calm your nervous system.

Have you ever said, "I'm not creative," or "I'm bad at art"?

I have. And in this conversation with art teacher and creativity guide Jen Velansky, we explore where those stories begin - often in childhood and how they can quietly shape what we allow ourselves to try as adults.

This episode is not about becoming "good" at art. It's about giving yourself permission to create without pressure, judgement, or perfection. Jen shares how art became an anchor through difficult seasons, how simple creative practices can help us pause before we react, and why creativity already exists in the everyday ways we solve problems, parent, cook, dress, garden, doodle, and connect.

If you've been feeling overwhelmed, disconnected, or stuck in your head, this episode is your invitation to come back to yourself - one doodle, one pause, one small creative moment at a time.

What You'll Learn
• Why saying "I'm bad at art" can keep you stuck in an old story
• How creativity helps you move from trigger-react to pause-respond
• Why art is about process, not performance
• How doodling can calm your nervous system in just a few minutes
• How to reconnect with your child through curiosity about their creativity
• Why creating, not consuming, can help you feel more grounded and alive

Resources & Links

Grab Jen's Doodle Sheet
https://lp.constantcontactpages.com/sl/PfFSz50

Connect with Jen

Website: bewellbecomecoaching@gmail.com
Instagram: @artwithjenniev & @arthappenshere.vt

Share the Episode

If this conversation reminded you that you don't need to be perfect to begin, share it with someone who needs permission to create again.

Remember

This is your reminder that you don't need fixing - you just need tools, space, and permission to come back to yourself.

Work With Me 1:1
If you heard yourself in this episode - the "I'm not creative," the fear of getting it wrong, the old story that you're just not good at art, I currently have one space open for private 1:1 coaching in May.

This isn't about being told to calm down or think more positively. It's about slowing things down enough to notice what's really happening underneath your reactions, so you can find simple tools that help you feel more grounded, connected, and in control.

If you're curious, go to the link below or simply DM me on Instagram @jennymcoaching. No pressure. Just a conversation.

https://jennymcoaching.com/contactme/

This podcast is produced by www.keystepsupport.com

"Why won't they just listen to me?"

If you've ever said that (out loud or in your head), you're not alone.

Because here's the truth… most of the time, you're not wrong.
Your idea makes sense. Your intention is good. You are trying to help.

But if people keep pushing back, shutting down, or ignoring you, it's not about what you're saying.

It's about how it feels to hear it.

In this episode, I'm taking you inside a real client session to show you the subtle ways communication breaks down—without you even realising it. We explore why even the best advice can create resistance, and how one small shift can completely change how your message lands.

This is where communication stops feeling like a battle… and starts creating connection, trust, and teamwork instead.

What You'll Learn
• Why people resist, even when your advice is right
• How "helping" can accidentally come across as control
• A simple 3-step communication shift that softens resistance instantly
• How to speak up confidently without sounding like you're bragging
• Why over-explaining is draining your relationships (and what to do instead)
• How to catch yourself before you react and choose connection instead

Work With Me 1:1

If this episode hit home, the frustration when people don't listen or the urge to fix, explain, or control - you're not alone. And this is exactly the work we do together.

I currently have one space open for private 1:1 coaching this April.

This isn't about better scripts. It's about helping you pause, understand your triggers, and communicate in a way that actually lands calmly, clearly, and without resistance.

If you're ready to stop repeating yourself and start seeing real change in your relationships, this is your next step.

👉 https://jennymcoaching.com/contactme/

Or DM me "RESET" on Instagram @jennymcoaching

No pressure. Just a conversation.

Listen & Subscribe

If this episode resonated with you, make sure you're following the podcast so you don't miss what's next.

Your next breakthrough might be one episode away.

Remember

This is your reminder: communication isn't about being right… it's about being heard.

And when you learn how to shift how your words land, everything starts to change.

You don't need to work harder, you just need the right tools.

And I'm right here with you.

You've explained it calmly, clearly, maybe even nicely… so why aren't they changing?
Because the more you tell, the more they resist. This episode shows you what actually works.

Have you ever found yourself repeating the same thing over and over - hoping this time it will land?

I've been there. Explaining more. Trying harder. Saying it nicer.
And somehow… it still doesn't work.

In fact, it often makes things worse.

In this episode, I'm breaking down what I call "the telling trap", that exhausting cycle of explaining, correcting, and trying to fix other people… only to be met with resistance.

Because here's the truth most people miss:
People don't change when they feel pressure. They change when they feel safe.

And safety doesn't come from what you say.
It comes from how you show up.

I'll walk you through the powerful shift from trigger → react → control
to trigger → pause → respond

This is the work. This is where everything changes.

If you've been feeling frustrated in your relationships, your communication, or even with yourself, this episode will show you a simpler, calmer way forward.

What You'll Learn
• Why "telling" people what to do actually creates resistance
• The hidden pressure behind over-explaining (and how it backfires)
• How to break the cycle of reacting and move into intentional responding
• Real-life examples (work, friendships, family) you can apply immediately
• How to model the behaviour you want, without saying a word
• The simple pause that can completely shift your relationships

Work With Me 1:1
If you heard yourself in this episode, the over-explaining, the frustration when nothing seems to land, the urge to fix or control how others behave, I currently have one space open for private 1:1 coaching this April.

This isn't about giving you better scripts or telling you what to say. It's about slowing things down so you can understand what's really happening underneath your reactions and learning how to respond in a way that feels calmer, clearer, and more like you.

If you're ready to stop repeating yourself and start seeing real change in your relationships, this is your next step.

If you're curious, go to the link below or simply DM me on Instagram @jennymcoaching. No pressure. Just a conversation.

https://jennymcoaching.com/contactme/

Listen & Subscribe

If this episode resonated, make sure you're following Who Do You Think You Are Talking To so you don't miss what's coming next.

Your next breakthrough might be one episode away.

Remember

This is your reminder:

You don't need better words.

You need a different way of showing up.

And that starts with one pause.

They're being kind… thoughtful… going out of their way for you.
So why do you feel overwhelmed instead of grateful?

If you've ever found yourself thinking,
👉 "This is a bit much… but I don't want to hurt them" and then saying nothing…

This episode will show you why that happens - and how to handle it without guilt.

Have you ever felt uncomfortable when someone is being really nice to you?

Maybe they're always checking in, doing things for you, or going above and beyond… and instead of enjoying it, you feel pressure, guilt, or even a little trapped.

I know this one well, because I used to be that person too.
The people pleaser. The over-giver. The one trying to keep everyone happy.

But here's what I've learned:
It's not the kindness that's the problem…
it's what happens when you don't say what you actually need.

In this episode, I'm sharing the simple shift that changes everything, the difference between something being hard and something being uncomfortable.

Because when you stop avoiding those small moments… you stop building resentment and start creating more honest, calmer connections.

What You'll Learn
• Why kindness can sometimes feel overwhelming (and what that really means)
• How staying silent leads to frustration and resentment
• The powerful shift from "this is hard" → "this is uncomfortable"
• A simple 3-step way to express what you need without hurting someone
• How to catch yourself before you shut down or overthink
• Why awareness is the first step to any real change

Remember

It's not about saying everything perfectly.

It's about being honest… even when it feels uncomfortable.

Because that's where the real shift happens.
That's where your power is.

Work With Me 1:1

If you heard yourself in this episode, the overthinking, the holding it in, the "it's fine, I'll just say nothing", I currently have one space open for private 1:1 coaching this April.

This isn't about learning how to say the perfect thing or forcing yourself to be more direct. It's about slowing things down enough to understand what's really happening underneath those moments - so you can express what you need with calm, clarity, and confidence (without the guilt).

If you're ready to stop bottling it up and start showing up more honestly, you can go to the link below or simply DM me on Instagram @jennymcoaching.

No pressure. Just a conversation.

https://jennymcoaching.com/contactme/

This podcast is produced by www.keystepsupport.com

Why Your Relationships Are Fading (And the Simple Shift That Brings Them Back)

Are the people closest to you starting to feel more like strangers? Not because of one big fight - but because of the small moments nobody talks about?

You know the ones. The "I'm fine." The "it doesn't matter." The "whatever." The conversations that never quite happen, the things left unsaid, the assumptions that quietly pile up until one day… the connection just isn't there anymore.
I see this all the time in my coaching sessions, and honestly? I've lived it too.

In this episode, I'm getting honest about something most of us don't want to face - that distance in relationships doesn't usually happen dramatically. It creeps in. And by the time you notice it, apathy has already done its quiet damage.
If you've ever found yourself shutting down instead of speaking up, or wondering why the people around you just don't get it anymore, this one's for you.

What You'll Learn

• Why "I'm fine" is one of the most damaging things you can say in a relationship
• What apathy really means, and why it's far more dangerous than arguing
• The assumption trap: how you're reacting to what you think someone means (not what they actually said)
• One powerful question to ask instead of reacting in the moment
• The simple communication framework I use with my clients that transforms everyday frustration into real connection
• Why "they should know me by now" is keeping you stuck, and what to do instead
• My own story: how I went from passive-aggressive silence to calm, clear communication at home

Remember
Relationships don't usually end with a bang. They fade in silence.
But those same quiet moments? They're also where connection can begin again.
One pause. One honest conversation. One small shift in how you express yourself, that's all it takes to start moving in a different direction.

Work With Me 1:1
If you heard yourself in this episode, the shutting down, the passive silence, the "they should know me by now", I currently have one space open for private 1:1 coaching in April.

This isn't about being told what to do or how to behave. It's about slowing things down enough to understand what's really happening underneath your reactions, so you can respond with more calm, clarity, and confidence.
If you're curious, go to the link below or simply DM me on Instagram @jennymcoaching. No pressure. Just a conversation.

https://jennymcoaching.com/contactme/

This podcast is produced by www.keystepsupport.com

Do you ever find yourself slamming cupboards, going quiet, over-explaining, over-helping, or feeling resentful that nobody seems to notice how much you do?

Maybe you keep telling yourself you're "just tired" or "just stressed," but deep down, you know there's a pattern playing out in your relationships, and it's exhausting.

In this episode, I'm joined by relationship strategist Katie Rössler to unpack the drama triangle: the hidden dynamic that keeps so many of us stuck in cycles of victim, villain, and hero energy. If you've ever wondered why the same arguments keep happening, why you feel unseen, or why you keep over-functioning for everyone else, this conversation will hit home.

And more importantly? It will show you that change is possible.

This episode felt like someone holding up a mirror in the gentlest and most powerful way.

Katie Rössler joins me to talk about the drama triangle, a pattern that shows up in marriages, parenting, friendships, family dynamics, and even at work. We explore how easy it is to slip into roles like the victim, the villain, or the hero without even realising it… and how those roles often come from the survival strategies we learned when we were younger.

If you've ever felt like you carry everything, keep the peace, explode after bottling things up, or wonder why your partner never seems to "get it," this episode will give you language for what's actually going on underneath the surface.

What I loved most about this conversation is that it doesn't stop at awareness. Katie shares how to begin shifting out of these reactive patterns and into something healthier: becoming the creator instead of the victim, the challenger instead of the villain, and the coach instead of the rescuer.

This is the work that changes relationships from the inside out. Not overnight. Not perfectly. But powerfully.

So if you're ready to stop repeating the same emotional loops and start showing up differently in your relationships, this episode is for you.

What You'll Learn in This Episode
• What the drama triangle is and why it shows up in everyday relationships
• How victim, villain, and hero roles can look very different than you expect
• Why people-pleasing, passive-aggression, and over-functioning are often part of the same pattern
• How childhood conditioning shapes the way you react in conflict
• Why changing your own behaviour can shift the entire relationship dynamic
• How to pause, get curious, and respond in a calmer, more grounded way

Connect with Katie Rössler
Website: https://www.katierossler.com

Podcast: https://www.katierossler.com/podcast

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@katierossler

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/RelationshipResetwithKatie

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/katierossler/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/katie.rossler/

Listen & Subscribe

If this episode gave you a lightbulb moment, don't leave it there. Follow Who Do You Think You Are Talking To? on Spotify or Apple Podcasts so you don't miss the next breakthrough conversation.

Don't wait for the next argument, shutdown, or emotional spiral to start paying attention. Start now.

Remember

This is your reminder that you're not too much, too sensitive, or too stuck. You may just be repeating a pattern you were never taught how to interrupt. And that can change.

You don't need fixing, you need awareness, tools, and support. And I'm here with you every step of the way.

This podcast is produced by www.keystepsupport.com

You keep saying "I'm not ready"… but what if that's exactly why nothing is changing?

I had a moment in a recent coaching session that really stayed with me… I realised I wasn't the right coach for that client.

Not because she wasn't capable. Not because she didn't want change.
But because every time we got close to the real issue - the pattern underneath everything - she pulled back.

"I'm just not ready to go there."

And honestly? I get it. I've been that person too.

For years, I stayed on the surface. Blaming circumstances, staying busy, focusing on plans and to-do lists… anything to avoid looking at what was really going on underneath.

Because that kind of honesty? It's uncomfortable. It's scary.
It asks you to look at the role you've played in your own patterns.

In this episode, I'm talking about why we avoid the deeper work, how "fake it till you make it" can keep you stuck in performance mode, and what actually happens when you stop pretending and start getting honest with yourself.

Because here's the truth:
You don't need to feel ready.
You just need to be willing to stop repeating the same patterns.

What You'll Learn
• Why "I'm not ready" is often fear in disguise
• How avoiding the real issue keeps you stuck in the same patterns
• The hidden cost of "faking it till you make it"
• How to recognise when you're staying on the surface instead of going deeper
• Why honesty (not perfection) is the real starting point for change
• What shifts when you stop performing and start being yourself

Remember

If this episode hit a nerve, that's not a bad thing, that's awareness.

And awareness? That's where everything starts to change.

You don't need to have it all figured out. You just need to be willing to look.

Work With Me 1:1

If you recognised yourself in this episode and you're ready to go deeper, I currently have one space open for private 1:1 coaching this month.

This work isn't about fixing you, because you're not broken.

It's about slowing things down enough to understand what's really happening underneath your reactions, so you can respond differently with more calm, clarity, and confidence.

If you're curious about working together, you can reach out through the contact form in the show notes and we'll simply have a conversation to see if it's the right fit.

This podcast is produced by www.keystepsupport.com