You don't need to stand up for yourself. You need a "self".

Saying "Hey, Wait" is just the beginning. The real magic? Learning how to actually speak from your own reality.

If you've been with us from the start, then you already know how much Nancy Dreyfus means to Jay. She's been Jay's mentor for years, and has shaped so much of the "Hey, Wait" approach you've been hearing about.

Think of Nancy as the "Yoda" of helping people get their insides to match their outsides. She's a psychotherapist, an author, and, more than anything, a deep well of wisdom. If this podcast has been resonating with you, you'll love this episode. It's packed with thoughtful insights and practical takeaways that'll help you get one step closer to being Radically and Embarrassingly True to Yourself.

In this episode, you'll hear Nancy talk about:

• Why being authentic can feel both embarrassing and liberating

• How to stand in your truth and honor someone else's reality

• What it really means to "do the work" with your partner

• And how you'll start to notice your own growth when you take healing seriously

Want to go deeper? Grab Nancy's book, Talk to Me Like I'm Someone You Love, and flip through the flashcards one by one. Don't just read them… say them out loud. Let the words settle into your body. Here's the link to grab the book.

And don't forget to stay connected with Jay Moon Fields—check out jaymoonfields.com and follow along on Instagram. Got a question for the podcast? Send it in! You might just hear it in a future episode.

Connect with Nancy Dreyfus:

• Official Website: https://nancydreyfus.com/

• Nancy's Book: "Talk to Me Like I'm Someone You Love": https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0399162003/

• Nancy's Psydbar Substack: https://nancydreyfus.substack.com/

• Instagram: https://www.instahttps://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0399162003/ref=s9_simh_gw_p14_d1_i3gram.com/nancydreyfus_psyd/

• Bluesky: https://bsky.app/profile/nancydreyfus.bsky.social

Connect with Jay:

• Official Website: https://jaymoonfields.com/

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heywaitwithjay/

• "Yours Truly" Coaching Program: https://jaymoonfields.com/coaching

• Jay Moon Fields' Book "Teaching People Not Poses": https://www.amazon.com/Teaching-People-Not-Poses-Principles/dp/1478326913/

• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jaymoonfields

Listen in as Jay shares a deeply personal update about a recent health diagnosis and how it is requiring she shift everything in her life. If you are an overfunctioning woman exhausted by people-pleasing, hear why confusing a capacity problem with a discipline problem is costing you everything, and how to finally begin listening to your body.

Jay Moon Fields is a Somatic coaching expert and the host of Hey, Wait, bringing deep insight into authentic living, embodiment, and aligning your insides with your outsides.

In this episode, you'll hear:
• How a surprising genetic diagnosis of dysautonomia and hEDS shifted everything and why body awareness is no longer optional.
• Healing from people pleasing and why extreme physical feedback finally stopped the fawning response.
• The crucial difference between a capacity problem and a discipline problem.
• Using the "wave and ocean" metaphor to reconnect to your vaster self.
• How awe can help you quiet your mind and regulate your nervous system.

Resources Jay mentions in the show:
Dr. Zac Spiritos: https://www.instagram.com/drzacspiritos/

Bendy Bodies Podcast: https://www.bendybodiespodcast.com/

Disjointed Book: https://bookscouter.com/book/9781734794908-disjointed-navigating-the-diagnosis-and-management-of-hyperm

For full resources, links, and to learn more about coaching, visit: https://jaymoonfields.com

Support the show: https://buymeacoffee.com/jaymoonfields

Credits: Produced by Viv – First Click VA | Original Music by Dalton Grant

Have you ever felt like you go missing in your own life to keep others comfortable? Fawning is an unconscious survival mechanism rooted in the nervous system that prioritizes someone else's happiness and demands over your own experience and boundaries. This episode features two fawners in recovery exploring how to break that trance, stop performing helpfulness, and start trusting your own internal compass.

Dr. Ingrid Clayton is a therapist with a PhD in private practice and the author of the deeply personal book Fawning. She works with survivors of complex childhood trauma and brings deep insight into relational trauma, healing, and the messy, slow work of learning to unfawn.

In this episode, Jay and Dr. Ingrid discuss:
► The crucial difference between genuine kindness or empathy and a fawning response driven by self-abandonment.
► Why chronic fawners often see other people's relational red flags as on-ramps to their own helpfulness.
► How clients, therapists, and coaches often unknowingly fawn with each other during professional sessions.
► How to tell the difference between staying in an asymmetrical relationship to do genuine healing work versus repeating a cycle of re-traumatization.
► The complexities of the "Let Them" theory and how it can sometimes embolden a trauma response instead of setting healthy boundaries.

Learn more about Dr. Ingrid Clayton
► Substack: https://ingridclaytonphd.substack.com/
► Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ingridclaytonphd

If you loved this episode, please help get it to others by subscribing, rating the show, or sharing it with a friend! You can learn more about how to support Jay's work and the show at https://buymeacoffee.com/jaymoonfields

Stay connected with Jay

► Website: https://jaymoonfields.com
► Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heywaitwithjay/
►DIY Online Course to Support Unfawning: https://jaymoonfields.com/yours-truly
► 1:1 Coaching: https://jaymoonfields.com/coaching
► Book: https://www.amazon.com/less-lost-finding-yourself-ordinary/dp/B0FSDSG63B
► LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jaymoonfields/

Have a question for the podcast? Send it in — it may be featured in a future episode.

Credits
This podcast was produced by Viv – First Click VA.
For podcast support, contact: viv@firstclickva.com

For collaborations or general inquiries, contact: hello@jaymoonfields.com

Original Music produced by Dalton Grant