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Five Year You

Five Year You

By: Andrew Dewar and Catherine Collins
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Welcome to "Five Year You," the podcast that takes you on a transformative journey toward your future self. Join us as we explore the power of self-improvement, tackling challenges, setting goals, and unleashing the potential within you. Our conversations are raw, real, and relatable, offering practical tips and insights to empower you in your growth. Each episode offers useful tips to help you become the person you aspire to be. Tune in, invest in yourself, and let's embark on this adventure together! Get ready for a unique and personal exploration of the honest and relatable moments that will shape the next chapter of your story. In each episode, we dive into the day-to-day experiences that make up the mosaic of your life over the next five years. From the small victories to the inevitable challenges, "Five Year You" captures the essence of the ordinary and extraordinary moments that contribute to your personal growth. Our tagline, "Raw, Real, Relatable," perfectly encapsulates the authenticity of the stories we share. No glossy highlights, just the unfiltered reality of navigating the twists and turns of everyday life. Join us as we connect with individuals from various walks of life who openly share their aspirations, setbacks, and the unexpected surprises that come with each passing day. Whether you're facing career crossroads, building relationships, or discovering new passions, "Five Year You" is here to provide a real-time reflection on the shared human experience. Tune in for a daily dose of inspiration, motivation, and a reminder that you're not alone on this journey.©Five Year You Hygiene & Healthy Living Personal Development Personal Success Psychology Psychology & Mental Health
Episodes
  • Who is Holding You Back? - Re-release

    Who is Holding You Back? - Re-release
    Jun 10 2026
    Ready to go deeper? Work with me here:https://fiveyearyou.com/coaching/If you’ve been feeling stuck… like something—or someone—is keeping you from becoming who you want to be… like you’re waiting for permission to move forward—this episode is for you.Because here’s the truth:Not everyone will understand the life you are trying to build.And more importantly… you do not need their approval to begin.💭 What This Episode CoversHow to recognize who—or what—is holding you backWhy other people’s fears can quietly become your limitsThe difference between support, concern, and controlHow people-pleasing keeps you disconnected from yourselfWhy you may be waiting for permission that will never comePractical ways to reclaim your choices and move forward🚨 Why You Feel Held BackYou’re Carrying Other People’s FearSometimes the people around you discourage change because your growth feels unfamiliar or threatening to them.Their hesitation may sound like concern, but it can slowly become a voice inside your own head.👉 Result: You begin doubting dreams that once felt clear.You’re Afraid of Disappointing PeopleYou may know what you want, but choosing it could upset someone you love.So you stay small, stay quiet, or keep postponing the decision.👉 Result: You protect other people’s comfort at the expense of your own peace.You’ve Learned to Seek PermissionWhen you are used to looking outside yourself for validation, trusting your own decisions can feel uncomfortable.You wait for someone to agree, approve, or reassure you before taking the next step.👉 Result: Your life remains paused while you wait for permission that may never come.The Person Holding You Back May Be YouSometimes the loudest resistance is internal.Fear, self-doubt, perfectionism, and old beliefs can stop you before anyone else gets the chance.👉 Result: You mistake familiar limitations for reality.😞 The Emotional Cost of Feeling Held BackWhen you believe you cannot move forward without someone else’s approval, it creates:resentmentfrustrationhelplessnessself-doubtdisconnection from your own desiresYou may start blaming the people around you while quietly abandoning yourself.And the worst part?👉 The longer you ignore your truth, the harder it becomes to hear it.⚠️ The Hidden DangerWhen you allow fear, guilt, or outside opinions to lead your life, you can make choices that look safe but feel deeply misaligned.Examples:Staying in a relationship because leaving might disappoint someoneRemaining in a job because others think it is “secure”Hiding a dream because people may not understand itSaying yes when your whole body is asking you to say noWaiting until everyone is comfortable before you change👉 A life built around avoiding disappointment will eventually disappoint you.🔑 The Truth You Need to HearYou are allowed to change.You are allowed to want something different.You are allowed to outgrow old roles, expectations, and relationships.You are not responsible for making everyone comfortable with your choices.And you do not need unanimous support to trust yourself.👉 The people who love you may need time to understand your growth—but you do not have to stop growing while they catch up.🔄 What Resistance Actually MeansFeeling resistance does not always mean you are making the wrong choice.Sometimes it means you are leaving a familiar version of yourself behind.Sometimes it means you are finally questioning rules you never consciously chose.Sometimes it means you are standing at the edge of a life that requires more courage, honesty, and self-trust.👉 Resistance may not be a stop sign. It may be proof that you are moving.🛠️ How to Shift Out of the “Held Back” MindsetName the VoiceWhen doubt appears, ask yourself:Is this fear actually mine?Or am I repeating something someone else taught me to believe?Separating your voice from everyone else’s is the first step toward clarity.Stop Asking for Permission → Start Asking for TruthInstead of asking, “Will everyone approve?” ask:What do I genuinely want?What choice feels honest?What would I do if I trusted myself?Notice Where You Are Giving Away Your PowerPay attention to the places where you regularly say:“I can’t because they…”“They won’t let me…”“They’ll be upset if…”You may not control their reaction, but you can choose your response.Set a Small BoundaryYou do not have to transform your entire life overnight.Start with one honest conversation.One clear no.One decision made without overexplaining.👉 Every boundary strengthens your relationship with yourself.Take the Next Brave StepYou do not need the whole plan.You only need the next decision that moves you closer to the person you want to become.Courage grows through action—not endless preparation.💡 Key TakeawayThe person holding you back may be someone you love.It may be an old belief.It may be fear.It may even be you.But recognizing what is ...
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    26 mins
  • The Secret of Life - Re-Release

    The Secret of Life - Re-Release
    Jun 3 2026
    Ready to go deeper? Work with us here:https://fiveyearyou.com/coaching/If you’ve been feeling like you’re searching for something deeper… like you’re wondering why you’re here… like life should feel more meaningful than it does right now—this episode is for you.Because here’s the truth:The secret of life is usually simpler than we want it to be.And more importantly… simple does not always mean easy.💭 What This Episode CoversWhy we often overcomplicate the meaning of lifeThe difference between searching for purpose and actually living itHow to bring more meaning into your everyday routineWhy joy, presence, and connection matter more than perfectionHow to stop waiting for life to “start”Small ways to come back to yourself right now🚨 Why Finding the “Secret of Life” Feels So HardWe Think It Has to Be BigWe often imagine purpose as something dramatic, impressive, or life-changing.But meaning is usually found in the small choices we make every day.👉 Result: We miss what’s already available because we’re waiting for something bigger.We Look Outside OurselvesIt’s easy to believe someone else has the answer.A book. A plan. A perfect routine. A future version of us.But the truth often starts with paying attention to what feels honest and alive inside of us.👉 Result: We keep searching instead of listening.We Confuse Simple With EasyThe things that matter most—love, presence, gratitude, self-trust, connection—are simple.But practicing them consistently takes intention.👉 Result: We dismiss the answer because it feels too obvious.We Wait for Perfect ConditionsWe think we’ll feel fulfilled when life calms down, when we have more time, when everything finally makes sense.But life is happening now.👉 Result: We postpone meaning instead of creating it.😞 The Emotional Cost of Searching Without LivingWhen you believe life has to be figured out before you can enjoy it, it creates:pressureconfusionrestlessnessdisconnectiona quiet feeling that something is missingAnd the worst part?👉 You can spend so much time searching for the point of life that you forget to actually live it.⚠️ The Hidden DangerThe hidden danger is believing the answer is somewhere far away.That mindset can lead you into choices that look productive but feel empty.Examples:chasing goals that do not actually matter to youwaiting for a future milestone to feel happycomparing your path to someone else’signoring simple moments of peace because they feel “too small”👉 The secret is not always found in doing more. Sometimes it is found in noticing more.🔑 The Truth You Need to HearYou are not here to rush through your life.You are not here to prove your worth.You are not here to become someone else before you’re allowed to feel peace.You are here to live.To grow.To connect.To experience.To choose again.To come back to yourself.You are not behindThere is no universal timelineLife is not linearMeaning can be simpleJoy can be practiced👉 The life you’re looking for may be closer than you think.🔄 What This Search Actually MeansWondering why you’re here does not mean you’re lost.It means you’re awake.It means some part of you is asking for more honesty.More presence.More alignment.More life in your life.That question is not a failure.It’s an invitation.👉 It’s the beginning—not the end.🛠️ How to Shift Out of the “Searching” MindsetStop Chasing → Start NoticingAsk yourself:Where do I already feel peace?What moments make me feel most like myself?Make Life Smaller—in a Good WayYou do not have to solve your entire existence today.Start with one meaningful choice.One honest conversation.One moment of gratitude.Practice PresenceMeaning is hard to feel when you are always racing ahead.Come back to where you are.What can you see, hear, feel, or appreciate right now?Define What Matters to YouAsk yourself:What do I want my days to feel like?Who do I want to be in the small moments?What kind of life actually feels true to me?Let Joy CountJoy is not silly.Peace is not lazy.Small moments are not meaningless.They are the building blocks of a life that feels good from the inside.💡 Key TakeawayThe secret of life may not be something you find once and keep forever.It may be something you practice.In the way you show up.In the way you love.In the way you notice.In the way you choose to be present for the life you already have.👉 The secret is simple: live your life while you are living it.✨ Glimmers from This EpisodeThe reminder that meaning can be found in ordinary momentsThe comfort of knowing you do not have to have everything figured outThe invitation to slow down and reconnect with what mattersThe possibility that the answer has been closer than you realized💬 Final ThoughtMaybe the secret of life is not hidden.Maybe it has been quietly waiting for youin the next breath,the next choice,the next honest moment.You do not have to wait for your life to become ...
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    30 mins
  • How To Love Yourself - Re-Release

    How To Love Yourself - Re-Release
    May 27 2026

    Loving yourself sounds simple, but for many people, it can feel confusing, uncomfortable, or even a little out of reach. In this episode, we talk about what self-love really means, why it is not the same as being selfish, and how to start building a kinder, more supportive relationship with yourself in everyday life.

    This conversation is a reminder that self-love is not about pretending everything is perfect. It is about learning to treat yourself with compassion, patience, honesty, and care as you grow into the next version of yourself.

    In This Episode, We Talk About
    • Why loving yourself can feel hard, especially if you are used to being self-critical
    • The difference between self-love and selfishness
    • How your inner dialogue shapes the way you move through your life
    • Why self-love is often built through small, daily choices
    • How to start showing up for yourself with more compassion
    • What it looks like to support yourself through growth, mistakes, and change

    Key Takeaways

    Self-love is not something you magically wake up with one day. It is a relationship you build with yourself over time.

    Being kind to yourself does not mean you stop growing. It means you stop using shame, criticism, or pressure as your main fuel.

    You can love yourself and still want more for your life. In fact, real self-love often helps you make better choices because you believe you are worth caring for.

    The way you speak to yourself matters. Your inner voice can either become a safe place or another source of stress.

    Small acts of self-trust, self-respect, and self-compassion can change how you see yourself over time.

    Quotes

    “Self-love is not about thinking you are perfect. It is about deciding you are still worthy while you are growing.”

    “You do not have to criticize yourself into becoming better.”

    “The relationship you have with yourself affects every other part of your life.”

    “Loving yourself can start with one small choice to stop being so mean to yourself.”

    Coaching

    If this episode made you realize you are ready to stop being so hard on yourself and start becoming the next version of you with more clarity, calm, and support, we would love to help.

    Learn more about Five Year You coaching at fiveyearyou.com/coaching.
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    30 mins
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